40 Things We've Learned

What pulls your thighs out of bed in the morning?

I wrote this before we'd met any of the women. Before I had context to take their stories and form them into snippets of lessons and moments. But, there's something about that line. What pulls your thighs out of bed in the morning? What wakes you up? What gets you out into the world? Is it your children? The smell of the air? For some, it's hard to get out of bed at all in the morning. We've learned that. For some, it's their morning devotional that pulls their skin away from the sheets. For some, it's for their son. For some, it's for children they've never met. For some, it's the gospel. Getting out of bed in the morning means something. Getting out of bed means we are trying to find our way along and moving.

What keeps us moving? What we’ve learned from meeting all the women. Here are a just a few:

  • If you mix a banana, peanut butter, peanut butter powder, and barleans in a blender, it makes a really good breakfast.

  • Your biggest battle is right between your two ears.

  • People that are vulnerable and not afraid to let their guard down, those are the ones you want to keep around.

  • Hot water, apple cider vinegar, cayenne pepper, and lemon+honey makes for the best detox breakfast drink.

  • Rise. Pee. Meditate.

  • Motivation to be the best for others is true, real, and beautiful.

  • Being concerned about what others think of you is a waste of time. Pretending something didn't happen to protect what people think of you is not worth a dime.

  • We can overcome joy and live our life wherever we’re at.

  • The more you talk about things you're going through, you can help others and it's healing for yourself too.

  • Remind yourself you must create what feels most honest to you.

  • We all have something unique to bring to the table. It's different. It's vibrant. It's eclectic.

  • We all need a message of purpose and our attitudes are what make us.

  • Not everyone has the fortunate circumstances you do; there should always be an element of gratitude in your own life.

  • Choosers aren’t quitters. If you go for it, finish it.

  • Dogs will save you.

  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help. That’s why we struggle in life, we can’t do things alone.

  • Brevity is the soul of complexity.

  • Green tea makes you and your face young.

  • The media scares people.

  • Read the "No Knead" recipe in the New York Times and try it.

  • Quit when you know you want to be done. You know when it's time to leave and you only.

  • We don't know everything about people, even those we spend all the time with.

  • The best people are the ones you can count on and talk to. If you have just one friend your whole life and they remain your friend, you are lucky.

  • Don't talk to people that are just waiting for you to stop talking.

  • Take time to catch those little moments that are a reminder of God even though there is pain and sorrow every day. You just have to stop and LOOK at it.

  • Sunday mornings are really wonderful.

  • Pick your battles.

  • If you're going to commit yourself to something or someone, commit.

  • Concentrated cherry juice is good for your joints.

  • You choose to survive. Nothing is going to just "pick you up." That's what you have to do.

  • If you don't have your family and friends and relationships that really matter, life can be a lonely place.

  • You're not always "on" and that's okay.

  • Tell stories you never thought you'd tell before.

  • We're all our mother even if we don't want to be.

  • Everyone can be new.

  • Brighten up the world by reflecting who you are. You are the light of the world. Don't be negative about what's happening in the world. Do not let your light be dimmed by what is dark.

  • Whether your source is nature, God, humanity. Connect with that.

  • Invest in your family. Be present no matter what.

  • Don't feel the need to have it all. Be able to live on one income.

  • Understand who you are today. Not tomorrow. Not in the past.